Moments With Toya~

Moments With Toya is what I title my vlogs.  They are really short because I'm clearly not a fan of long videos. If you watch my videos you're probably thinking yea we know that lol. I like to share bits and pieces of my life. I am showing other women or men that there is life after a break up or divorce.

My vlogs are about exposing the good things about life after. I think further down the line if there is an issue that I feel is important I won't hesitate to share. I'm always filming even if I don't post it. 

Break ups and divorce can be brutal and some people become stuck in sadness for way too long. It's OK to mourn the loss, but not too long. 

Don't waste too much of your time dwelling in the past. Life is Beautiful and you should spend your days being happy and blessed that you and your family are able to enjoy another day of life. ❤️ In the words of  Jada Pinkett Smith saying (That Part). 

As for my blogs, I will leave the drama to Love and Hip Hop which is a guilty tv pleasure lol. I'm not saying there isn't drama during a break up or divorce, however remain positive. 

Peace of mind goes a long way. It affects everything such as parenting, job, routine and much more. 

I hope that by sharing my moments I can give you a glimpse of what you are missing out on if you think life doesn't go on. 

Later✌🏾️

Moments With Toya 

More Moments With Toya

Kid Free Weekend Girls Night Out

It was really hard when I started having kid free weekends because I was use to being MOM all the time. I cried like a baby😭 the first weekend my kids went with their dad. Don't get me wrong I still miss them and yes I shed a few internal and external tears, but now I have a set schedule of me time! 

I don't need to look for a babysitter anymore! hahahaha 

Sometimes great events fall on my weekend and I opt out of going because it's their time and I want to spend it all with them. Plus, I just tell myself oh well I will find something else next weekend when I'm free! 

In this video you get a glimpse of me enjoying my kid free weekend with adults 💕👏🏽 Girls Night Out 

So if you are going through a divorce/custody or even after custody or no custody at all get your adult time in and enjoy! Live, Laugh and Love!

Later ✌🏽️💕

Divorce...

                                                             DIVORCE 

Divorce can be a very difficult time for most people.  I speak about this in my recent video. Divorce can lead to feelings of disappointment. I felt like I lost it all. I expected to be married forever. We almost made it to 10 years of marriage. 


Divorce involves legal, financial and emotional changes and much more. Responsibilities changed, all of my routines changed. Divorce can take time for you to get it together. It first starts with the separation process and then the dissolution of marriage. 

I took 2 years away from making videos and being present so much on social media. I never considered myself as a private person. It was taboo to make videos about hair and your family back in 2009 and I was apart of the beginning of YouTube/ Natural Hair community. 

I shared my hair, my family and bits and pieces of my social life on YouTube, but this matter wasn't for the public. 

Would you want to see me  on video in tears, emotional,  and upset because my family was falling apart? Yes ? No? some people would lol but, who would edit the video? haaaaa NOT me!  Definitely, NOT my ex lol. I was too busy crying over spoiled milk lol. I cry ugly tears. Not Cute. 



Reality tv stars get PAID to do it lol. I noticed that people on YouTube who advertise their personal matters make a living, yet it was still NOT for me. I applaud them and some of them actually help me cope. I respectfully watched, liked and subscribe to support their channels.  I'd probably have so many views if I did for sure! It was definitely full of action everyday.  I actually turned the camera on several times to vlog my divorce process.  However, I would start to edit and eventually ended up deleting  it all. 

I had to take a  "adult" time out. I went from being a stay at home mom for over 6 years to starting a new job while living in a new city.  I had to make new friends. I made some awesome friends. I love them dearly. I built some lifetime friendships with several amazing women during my divorce. 

I couldn't make videos or speak about my divorce until I was  feeling less emotional so that I  could make decisions with a clearer head. 

I needed my "me" time. I didn't know if I wanted to make videos anymore. So after two years, I asked myself will my subscribers still want to watch?  If NOT, I still watch my own videos for reference lol. 

I've always captured moments of my life on camera since I was a little girl. My uncle gave me my first Polaroid camera in middle school. I begged him for it! He eventually gave in. I still have that camera I think. I love to take pictures! I love to capture  moments on film. YouTube is a source of storing moments of my life. I hope YouTube never goes away lol I would literally cry!